Jennifer Lopez has revealed what she finds attractive in a man, saying she values kindness and men who help with household chores far more than expensive watches, luxury cars, or private jets.
While her comments, which she made during her performance at the Dolce & Gabbana show in Taormina, Sicily on July 16th, may have been intended to be sweet, they have sparked backlash online, with some fans questioning whether she is the right person to give relationship advice given her history with men, which currently includes four marriages and four divorces.
The Hustlers alum, who turns 57 in a few days, has been speaking more openly about dating, relationships, and her views on love in recent months, particularly following her divorce from Ben Affleck and while promoting her new movie Office Romance, in which she stars alongside Brett Goldstein. The pair sparked romance rumors after reportedly growing close while filming the movie, although this appears to have now fizzled out, with Lopez recently insisting in an interview that she is single.
The “I’m Real” hitmaker also recently revealed that she no longer considers herself a hopeless romantic, explaining that her views on love have changed over the years. During an interview with Thomas Duke for Stepping Through Film, she said, “Back then I was this hopeless romantic,” before adding: “I’ve changed, and my understanding of love and relationships has changed.”
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Jennifer Lopez Says Kindness Is More Attractive Than Wealth During Dolce & Gabbana Show
During the Dolce & Gabbana performance, the Kiss of the Spider Woman actress, who was dressed in a dazzling plunging sparkly bodysuit and matching sparkly over-the-knee boots, explained what she looks for in a man. Anyone who remembers the lyrics to "Love Don't Cost a Thing" may get a sense of déjà vu, as she echoed the same sentiment by saying she isn't impressed by expensive material things but rather by kindness and thoughtful gestures.
"But you know what really makes a man attractive? It's not the watch. It's not the car. It's not the private jet," she began. "It really isn't, although that's nice," she continued. "It's seeing them make the bed in the morning or wash the dishes for you when you're tired at night. That's what's sexy."
"Now that's what I call sexy," the Unstoppable actress reiterated, before concluding: "Cause ladies, you know, we do all the things. We do all the things." According to reports, the audience wholeheartedly agreed with her comments and applauded.
Jennifer Lopez's Reported Dating Preferences Spark Debate
While the audience may have agreed with her, many people on social media were quick to point out what they saw as a contradiction, especially considering recent reports about why things allegedly didn't progress between her and Goldstein.
An insider reportedly told OK! that Goldstein was the perfect comfort and distraction while Lopez was going through her divorce from the Gone Girl actor. The source claimed there was "an undeniable chemistry" between the pair on set that "naturally spilled over off camera," with the connection offering Lopez a welcome sense of "lightness and escape" after her split from Affleck. According to the insider, it made the Shotgun Wedding actress feel "wanted and energized again without the weight of expectation."
The insider also claimed that the Ted Lasso star didn't match the long-term vision Lopez reportedly has for herself, alleging that she is looking for someone who matches her lifestyle, level of fame, wealth, and ambitions. According to the source, those expectations "naturally narrow the field" when it comes to who she sees as a long-term fit.
Fans Question J-Lo's Relationship Advice
"I'm not saying she's wrong. I'm just saying she's not high on my list of love advisors," one person commented on a Fox News Digital article. "Ladies, I would advise not taking advice about men from J-Lo," quipped a second. "Marital advice from someone whose multiple marriages last an average of three days each. Really?" a third joked.
"Is this a joke? Jennifer Lopez is giving advice on men? She's been divorced four times and she has the unmitigated gall and temerity to give advice on men? WOW!" a fourth continued. "Relationship advice from Jennifer Lopez would be like taking financial advice from Floyd Mayweather," a fifth added.
"Jennifer Lopez has an estimated net worth of $400 million as of 2026. Yeah, I'm sure she washes dishes at night," a sixth commenter sarcastically wrote. "I thought she already pays maids and cleaning services to do that? I think she's really saying that she wants a man she can control," speculated a seventh. "I love it when the rich say money doesn't matter," an eighth chimed in.
